It is not ethical
I think it isn't ethical to resort to emotional black mail when one has a fall out with another party, and in a bid to win sides:
1. resorts to emotional black mail (pretending to understand, but actually hopes to instil guilt)
2. puts on a bigger facade a.k.a campaign
3. have bad memory about own faults yet astoundingly accurate recollection of others wrong doings
4. acts innocent and plays the role of the victim
I mean think about it,when Clinton cheated on his wife, not even he tried to play the role of the victim. Anyone heard him say "O...she was just TOO hot...it's not my fault!!! Besides..I don't remember anything. That Monica is such a ****"
posted by Kevin @ 5:38 AM
1 Comments:
Kevin
For a few weeks I have been reading your blog and it’s been interesting and amusing. However, I’ve noticed that some of the posts are very hostile towards someone. I’m still not certain who this is and I don’t know any details of your conflict so I can’t really comment. But for what it’s worth I’ll offer a few thoughts, take them or leave them. Please don’t misunderstand my intentions, I’m not trying to be judgmental, I’m just offering suggestions. I’ll assume your antagonist is a guy, since I know you’re too nice to girls to have a fight with them!
In your posts you take the stance of moral righteousness, that you have done no wrong and the your antagonist is “evil” and a “wrongdoer”. In truth, no conflict is ever as one sided as that, despite what George Bush may claim. Maybe your antagonist has done wrong things, but have you been so perfect yourself? Maybe you misinterpreted some of his actions. You make a lot of allegations about the bad intentions of your antagonist, but how do you know you just haven’t misunderstood him?
I don’t think your blog is an appropriate forum for posting these grievances. Everyone needs to express their feelings at times, but the internet is a very public place and you must be careful not to say something that is unfair or could hurt someone. Otherwise you’re just as guilty of spreading scandal as you claim your antagonist is. Posting your complaints will not help to resolve your conflict. It would be more constructive to bring up these issues with your antagonist himself. Better to be up front and open about it with him than complain about him behind his back to others. That doesn’t mean having a fight about it. Have a frank discussion about how you feel, but be prepared to admit your mistakes too. Most likely, both sides have done things to hurt each other. Approach the issues with conciliatory intentions rather than angry ones.
A wise man once said, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone” and “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you…If anyone hits you on one cheek, let him hit the other one too.” In his poem If, Rudyard Kipling advises that when “being hated, don’t give way to hating.”
I’m sorry if I’m getting too preachy. Again, I don’t really know your circumstances and I’m not trying to judge you at all. It just saddens me that you should have such conflicts and I hope that you can sort them out.
Your friend
Arjie
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